Coffee Date…again
So, I’m back from my coffee date with “sara”.
VERY different from my first meeting. Much more of a strained conversation, but some positives:
- She was more like what I was expecting looks wise, ie, she looked at least a little like her picture online
- There were a few longer gazes (ie…I’m checking you out as we talk looks)
- It wasn’t horribly awkward
The negatives:
- She recently got out of a bad relationship (which I knew from my googling of her)
- she recently came back to calling herself a christian (a big deal me)
- She was a little heavy…not fat, but not me…I kinda expected this from her mostly face only pictures
We talked for about an hour at a Starbucks. Leaving was different than my last coffee date, this time it was more open to maybe something more. I shouldn’t have left it so open. Now that I’ve had time to reply the meeting, I know I won’t ask her to meet again. She was a nice girl, and interesting…but the negatives I listed above just outweighed the positives. I found myself not being as open as I was with my first coffee date. I was more business like in this meeting…I’m not sure why. I don’t think it was me though.
I have a number of matches I need to clean up, and one of my matches requested communication with me today, so I think I’ll answer her questions tomorrow. Matches have slowed to about 1 a day now. It’s going to be tough to get a coffee meeting a week, but I think I’m doing alright so far.
This is a really crazy thing I’m doing.
But it’s kinda fun. It’s outside my normal comfort zone (although in my job I meet random people every day and have to chit-chat with them).
2 caramel fraps down….where are you ms. perfect for me? (not perfect, but a good match. no one is perfect, and no one should expect that).
site update: I thought about moving this blog to a more customizable blog on one of my own sites….but I guess people actually read this thing here! So, I’ll leave it here. Sorry for the confusion!
I just wanted to say that I met my husband on eharmony at the age of 23 and we were married last year!
I do want to say, though, that I was on the system for 2 years before I met my husband. I had a total of 7 matches and met 2 of them, one of them I married! (I think less people were on eharmony back then.)
And give those girls without pictures a chance! I corresponded with my husband for a month before we met- and the first time I knew what he looked like was on our first date (he never sent me a picture). But I knew we had chemistry…and he turned out to be cute anyway!
Eharmony really does work!
(PS: I also go to SPU as a grad student and my two brothers are/were undergrads. Do you know Kenny and Stuart C.?)